Jopaz Baquirin

Here are 31 of the most invaluable lessons I've learned in my 20s—broken down into chapters on love & relationships, life, and being queer.

"Some can't wrap their heads around the idea of using an app to look for a potential partner in a similar way you would go on Amazon to look for discounted toilet paper. It sounds so contrived. So unnatural."

"As ordinary, mediocre human beings appreciating our dull realities, we find comfort and power in the truth that nobody truly cares what we do."

"Self-discipline stems from the love and respect we have for ourselves."

"Whatever change you want to make, know that it will take time. It will feel like nothing before it starts feeling like it's actually something."

"As opposed to trends these days, nothing magical happened when I ‘stepped out of the closet’."

"There is a certain feeling of isolation and apathy that seems to consume you completely and becomes too much to handle. That could be a sign that you’re experiencing one of the myriad symptoms of culture shock."

"We’re all flawed and annoying. And sometimes, it takes an excruciating amount of pain just for us to finally admit that."